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Tag Archives: poverty

Thoughtful Living: Pack an Extra Lunch

2 October 201622 September 2023
thoughtful-giving
Thoughtful Living: Pack an Extra Lunch

A few weeks ago, I started packing an extra lunch to give to the homeless guys on the block that I adopted in NYC.  There are usually two or three guys on that block.

I started packing an extra lunch, just to up my thoughtful giving game.  Instead of giving the guys a little treat pack, I would give them a meal that I made in my own kitchen.  This was about sharing the blessing I’ve been given.  If God deemed that my refrigerator and pantry be filled with so much food (more food than I can consume myself), then I should share the bounty.

When I changed my diet a couple of months ago, I noticed there were certain items I could not donate to the neighborhood food pantry.  It made me ponder what I should do with all of this food I can’t eat anymore.  That’s when I realized I could cook up a few meals and give it to my guys during the week.

I have a bread machine with plenty of flour.  I didn’t know what I could do with all of that flour after my lifestyle changed.  Then I realized, I can bake bread for them.


A few days after I came up with the idea of making complete meals for the guys, I saw a Facebook posting about someone who used to do the same thing.

When the writer of the story was a young boy, his mother used to send him to school with an extra lunch for one of the boys in his class.  She told him, “Give him the lunch before school.”  He didn’t understand why.  There were times he would hand the boy the lunch during lunch hour.

He didn’t realize until he was older that the reason why his mother asked him to give the boy the lunch before school was so that no one would know his situation.  It was a way of hiding that boy’s poverty from their classmates.  Kids can be cruel.  His mother wanted to protect the boy from that cruelty he would have received from other kids by receiving this charity.

The author realized the invaluable lesson she was instilling in him.  There are kids today that are humiliated because they can’t afford a hot lunch.  It is even exacerbated by the school system when children have their hot meals taken away and have it replaced by a cheese sandwich.

A bunch of idiots on a school board decided to institute those rules of cheese sandwiches when parents failed to pay their children’s lunch bills.  It’s the school system humiliating the child in front of all of the other children, because their parents  are not paying the school lunch bill.  They’re punishing the child for their parents’ failure.

It’s not right.


Imagine changing that narrative if you are a parent.  What if you sent an extra lunch with your child, just in case there was another child that was subjected to the cheese sandwich?  What if you sent them with extra food for those children whose only food they will receive that day are from those school meals?  There are some schools that have a private food pantry for impoverished children who are from homes that cannot afford food.

It is private so that other children do not know who is shopping that food pantry.

It is a shame that children have to fear other children finding out that they are starving.  Children with the wealth of food on their tables should share with those who do not have that same blessing.  This is a human quality that should be instilled in each and every one of us.  We should not feel ashamed or overprotective of sharing our blessings with others.

I’ve seen people repulsed when I stop to give food to the homeless guys or stop to talk to them.  Someone was telling me recently that he was out with a woman when they were stopped by a homeless man asking for assistance.  He went to give him the few dollars he had in his pocket.  The homeless man accidentally brushed up against the woman and she freaked out.  She was so disgusted she said she had to go home and shower to get the homeless off of her.

When he told me this story, my mouth literally dropped.  He re-emphasized the most important point, “They are human beings, too.”



We live in a world where there is so much abundance.  It is unfathomable that anyone should go hungry in this country.  How is it that we cannot share this wealth of food with everyone?

If you’re a parent, teach your kids a valuable lesson about being a thoughtful and giving human being.  Send them to school with an extra lunch for those kids that are hungry.  Get the other families to do it, too.  If there’s no private food pantry, get the school on board to start one.  If there is one in your child’s school, donate to it.

Kids that don’t have to worry about food have a better chance at succeeding in school. When they are focused on where their next meal is coming from or the fact that they are starving, they will fail in school.  Even in colleges, this is an issue.  Don’t think that just because someone got into college that they are not homeless or starving.  They are still trying to better their situation, but it becomes difficult when they are looking at the clock hoping they get to the shelter in time or the fact that they are starving.  When all you can think about is food, it makes it harder to concentrate on your studies.

It takes a village to help raise each and every child.  We need to change the current narrative and stop being so divided.  It is small changes like this that will help move our future as a society in the right direction.

For the adults, pack an extra lunch.  You never know who you’ll encounter that may be hungry and starving.  Maybe you already know someone that could use that extra lunch you’ve packed.  There may even be someone in your own workplace or church congregation that can’t afford food.

Donate to your local food pantry.  If there’s no community food pantry, start a giving box where people can put food in the pantry box.  People that need the food can take what they want.  This is about helping each other.  No one in America should go hungry.  Do your part and share your blessings with others.  Not everyone gets that same blessing of a hot meal three times a day.  Some people are praying for what you take for granted.




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Paul Bettany’s Directorial Debut “Shelter”

10 November 201519 February 2016
Anthony Mackie and Jennifer Connelly star in "Shelter," the directorial debut of Paul Bettany. Peter Travers of the New York Film Critics Series. November 9, 2015.
Anthony Mackie and Jennifer Connelly star in “Shelter,” a film written and directed by Paul Bettany. Peter Travers of the New York Film Critics Series preps to interview the cast and director. November 9, 2015.

Paul Bettany (“A Beautiful Mind,” “Priest,” “Legion”) makes his directorial debut with the film “Shelter.”

Bettany was inspired to write the film about a homeless couple in Manhattan, taking inspiration from a couple he used to see everyday near his home in Manhattan.  Every morning, as he was taking the kids to school, he’d come upon this couple.  Every day they exchanged pleasantries, a nice hello, before heading on their separate ways.

After Hurricane Sandy hit, he noticed they were gone.  He never saw them again.  He always wondered what happened to them.

It was that interracial couple living on the streets that inspired him to dive into the homeless culture and create a story that could have been their tale.

His wife, Jennifer Connelly (Oscar Award winning actress for “A Beautiful Mind”), was cast in the lead role.  Anthony Mackie (“Avengers: Age of Ultron,” “Captain America: The Winter Soldier,” “8 Mile,” “The Night Before”) plays opposite of her leading role.  Together, they tell the imagined tale of what could have happened to that couple that Bettany saw outside of his building.

This film dives deeply into the world of homelessness as we follow Tahir, a Nigerian refugee (and former terrorist) with no papers living on the streets.  He is trying to find some sort of redemption for the egregious sins he had committed in his lifetime.

He stumbles upon Hannah, a heroin addict, living on the streets.  She just so happens to be wearing his jacket that was stolen with the rest of his things while he was in lockup.  He follows her around all day before she confronts him for following her.  She gives him back his jacket, but he still refuses to leave her.  He knows why she is on that overpass.

The only reason why anyone goes up there is if they want to kill themselves.  She tries to climb over the fence, but he holds her back.

That is when his redemption begins.  He hopes that if he can save her, then he’ll be able to get into heaven to see his family again.

We follow the two as they get to know each other and eventually fall in love.  We see what they do to try and earn some money on the streets.  We watch as they go through garbage bins looking for food, clothes, boots, and anything they can use to survive living on the streets.  We watch how they survive living with only the things they can carry on their backs.

Bettany wants us to see and experience what the homeless go through on the streets of Manhattan.  We watch as their story takes a turn for the worst when the weather changes.  What they do in order to survive the winter, including the blizzard outside when all of the shelters and housing has turned them away, sheds light on the horrors that occur.  People take advantage of those in their most vulnerable states.  Hannah’s dignity is completely stripped away to nothing in her desperation to find someplace out of the blizzard.  A good Samaritan isn’t such a good Samaritan when he demands another form of payment for his kindness.

A wrench is thrown into the mix when Tahir becomes sick.  He knows he’s dying, so his interest becomes solely on Hannah’s safety.  He starts encouraging her to go home to her family.  They’re looking for her.  She refuses to go without him.

The message in this story of Tahir and Hannah is to take a closer look at the homeless around us and to not judge them for their failures.  Yes, there are some who are con artists pretending to be homeless and make more money than the person giving them that dollar, but then there are the real homeless people out there that we shouldn’t ignore.  Some only need just a chance to get themselves off the streets.  For some cities, they need better resources to help people.

“The film is about judgment, not about homelessness,” Bettany told Peter Travers of the New York Film Critics.  “I didn’t want to make a film about homelessness being bad or drug addiction being bad or how anybody deemed with those two situations are either criminals or victims.  I just wanted to understand the predicament a little bit more.  That’s all I wanted to do.”

“The responses to homelessness are a myriad.  One of them is ignoring, and the people being invisible.  Another one is some downright aggression which has to be borne out of fear.  ‘It couldn’t happen to me because I’m different from you.  You must have done something to bring yourself that low, because it will never happen to me.’  Well, explain to me why there are so many homeless veterans?  Those are men with medals.”

“Last year in New York we passed two milestones.  An apartment sold for $100 million.  Extraordinary, really.  Even more extraordinary though, 60,000 of New York City’s citizens sought shelter in the New York City shelter system every night.  4,000 of them were children.  19,000 of them are women.  Half of New York City’s homeless population are families, and all of that is going on in a town that holds more billionaires than any other city on earth.”

“Over the last ten years, we have lost 32% of public housing.”

Anthony Mackie and Paul Bettany. November 9, 2015.
Anthony Mackie and Paul Bettany. November 9, 2015.

The question of how they got to be that way isn’t because they chose to be that way.  Nobody chooses to be homeless and destitute.  As Anthony Mackie said, we are all just one second away from being homeless ourselves.  Anything can happen in our lives that can cause us to end up on the streets.  For Tahir, he was escaping a past in another country.  He was a refugee.  For Hannah, her husband died.  She didn’t know how to live without him, or how to take care of herself.  She was heartbroken and grieving.  She started taking heroin to numb the pain she was feeling inside.

There are families living on the streets.  People across America are finding it harder and harder to find stable work, especially in places where manufacturing companies closed their doors (see Detroit).  Even in NYC, 98% of the garment manufacturing companies closed shop over these last few years.  Public housing is becoming fewer and fewer as the number on the streets steadily climbs.

The important thing to note here is that people don’t choose to be destitute and poor.  They don’t do this because they want a free handout.  When you tell a bum to “Get a job,” you don’t know how many times he’s tried only to have the door slammed in his face again and again.  They get to the point where they give up.  It’s like the veterans out on the streets.  We sent these kids out to fight our wars, but when they came back, we gave up on them.  They couldn’t get a job because they were considered risky (due to PTSD).

Look at the job market where manufacturing companies that could have employed people back from the war, refugees, or even the homeless…those manufacturing companies were forced to close their doors one shop at a time.  The jobs went overseas.  American companies that want Made in the USA products are being forced to send their manufacturing jobs overseas because those manufacturing companies don’t exist on American soil anymore.  They don’t want to do it, but they have no choice because the manufacturers are gone.

Say you worked in a manufacturing company and they were forced to close their doors.  It was the only place that employed an entire town.  What do you do when everyone in town loses their source of income?  Pick up the family and move? To where?  Where do you take them?  If almost all of those manufacturing companies are closing their doors, and that’s where your skill set is, what are you going to do for money?

This is the reality of the homeless situation across America.  People don’t choose to be destitute.  The circumstances surrounding them forces them into this predicament.  It beats them down until they have no choice but to live on the streets.  If Americans were always picking up the bill for those living on welfare, keep in mind all of those that did not qualify for welfare.  Where are they?  They’re the ones in line for the non-profit food trucks carrying food for the homeless.  They’re the ones at their local churches asking for some clothes to wear.  They’re digging through the trash looking for a pair of shoes.  They’re the ones standing in line at the shelter when the weather gets too cold hoping to get a warm bed so they don’t have to sleep out in the storm.  These people are the forgotten.

“Shelter” doesn’t just dive into that dark place of homelessness with no redemption.  It has its own Hollywood ending.  Elements from Connelly’s work in “Requiem for a Dream” comes to light.  It was one of the first films that gave people the opportunity to see that she was a force to be reckoned with as being a superior actress.  It divorced us from that young girl in “Labyrinth.”  This is what that young girl grew up to be…an outstanding actress that would win her own Oscar for Best Supporting Actress in “A Beautiful Mind” (where she met her husband, Bettany).

Jennifer Connelly. November 9, 2015.
Jennifer Connelly. November 9, 2015.

While people may reminisce of how this film reminds us of her role in Requiem, you can also see how her husband pushes her to a whole different level of humanity in her acting.  There was one scene in the film that appears to be difficult for Bettany to stomach, even as the director.  As a husband, he had difficulties with one particular scene in the film where Hannah is completely degraded, humiliated and all dignity stripped from her.  While he was trying to shed light that this is what happens to women on the streets, it also shows the strength in the woman playing Hannah.  To see your wife be stripped of all dignity in that one moment, you can understand why Bettany has difficulties with the scene.  He tried to protect her all throughout the film.  It was as if he was apologizing to his wife for forcing her to go through that scene for the sake of his film.

But one look at Connelly as she watched her husband try to apologize in his own way for making her do that, you can see that’s not how she saw it.  She was just Hannah in that scene, not Jennifer Connelly.  She was telling Hannah’s story, not Jennifer Connelly’s story.  It’s seeing that in her eyes, you understand why she’s the one with the golden statue.  She earned that Oscar and you can see why she deserved the most coveted prize.  She lives up to that statue’s reputation.  She is an actress and plays the role impeccably.

The good thing about Connelly is that you can expect everyone else in the film to bring their A-game to the set each and every day.  That’s what Mackie brought to the film.  He brought his A-game.

While this film acts one part documentary of the homeless situation, it also shares its own beauty in the cinematography.  You can see the beauty and art of the film from the first few seconds as the introductory credits begin and then as it hits its peak in the rain, when the two actors plunge into the pool of water, and ends with a frosted over window on a train.

Paul Bettany’s directorial debut is perfection from beginning to end.  He pushes the envelope and takes us into places where we dare not tread in order to show the world…THIS IS HAPPENING.  It’s a cry that it’s time we do something.

For those in NYC who want to do something or if you (or someone you know) needs help, Coalition for the Homeless is there to help.  In New York, Supportive Housing Network of NY is also available.

Another resource located in Detroit, a group called The Empowerment Plan is a non-profit that employ the homeless and gives them a living wage to make coats for the homeless.  Those coats are now being distributed all around the world to the homeless.  You can’t buy the coat, but you can help by donating to the group so that they can make more coats for people on the streets.

You can learn more about the film and where you can view the interview at New York Film Critics.  There, the stars and director share their stories on how the story came into being and what playing these roles meant to them.

All in all, this film is about how we place judgment on the homeless.  The purpose is to try to create understanding that will hopefully change the way we see people living on the streets.  Maybe it will create change within ourselves by doing something to help.

Shelter is due to be released in movie theaters on Friday, November 13th.

 

 

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Day One: $1.50 A Day Food Challenge

28 April 201521 April 2015

I decided to do this $1.50 A Day Food Challenge a week earlier and post up my results for each day of the 5 day challenge.

First, I just want to make the disclaimer that during this time period, I used free items as part of the challenge.  After all, if you’re lucky enough to get free food anywhere in the world, it counts towards food on the table, including what you’re paying out of pocket.

BREAKFAST

Granola w/ soy milk
Coffee w/ soy milk

Today’s breakfast was a free meal.  One day, I was given a bag of Cascadian Farm Organic Protein Granola.  It’s one of those free merchandising bits that happens around New York City every now and again.  Some marketing group stands outside handing out samples.  In this case, I was given a full bag of granola.

I had a bowl of the granola along with soy milk that I got from my office (free).

I am also a coffee fiend.  I won’t be able to make my own coffee because it fits outside of this week’s budget.  This week, I’m going to use the free coffee and soy milk offered at the office.

LUNCH

Ingredients to Lentil Soup
Ingredients to Lentil Soup

Lentil soup
Carrots/Celery Crudites
Ranch dressing

Throughout the week, I’ll be using the carrots/celery.  A bag of carrots was $0.99, and the celery was $0.89.

For lunch, I had a bowl of Lentil Soup I made from my crock pot.  The ingredients pictured here produced 4 bowls of soup at $0.24/bowl.

Keep in mind, that lentil soup can be drab and boring.  In order to make it more flavorful, it is important to sauté the onions and tomatoes prior to putting them into the crock pot.  It makes a world of difference.

LENTIL SOUP

Ingredients

2 Cups of Lentils
Water
1 Tablespoon Olive Oil
2 Tomatoes, diced
1/4 cup onions, diced
1 1/2 Tablespoons of Madras Curry Powder
Salt
Pepper

Directions

1. In a crockpot, put the lentils in the pot, covering it with water, leaving about an inch of water above the lentils.

This recipe produces 4 bowls of lentil soup.  Each bowl is $0.24/bowl.
This recipe produces 4 bowls of lentil soup. Each bowl is $0.24/bowl.

2.  In a saucepan, heat the olive oil.  Add the onions and a pinch of salt, cook until translucent (about 1-2 minutes).  Add the diced tomatoes, cooking until the tomatoes are soft, almost liquid (about 3-4 minutes).

3.  Add the curry powder, salt and pepper to the crockpot along with the tomatoes/onion mixture.  Stir the ingredients.

4.  The lentils are done in 2-3 hours if cooking on high temperature.  At low temperature, it is 4-6 hours.  Check the lentils after 2 hours and stir to make sure the lentils do not clump or burn at the bottom. The lentils are done when the beans are soft.

Makes 4 servings

Cost breakdown:

1  4 lb. bag of lentil soup = $2.00 (only used roughly 1/2 a pound, which equates to $0.25)
2  tomatoes (6 pack of tomatoes = $1.29. 2 tomatoes=$0.43)
1 onion = $0.30 (1/4 of an onion = $0.08)
Spices/oil $0.20
TOTAL: $0.96 for 4.  1 bowl = $0.24.

Lentil Soup.
Lentil Soup.

Lunch Cost breakdown:

Lentil soup: $0.24
Carrots: $0.99/bag (cost will appear this one time to encompass all 5 days)
Celery: $0.89/bag (cost will appear this one time to encompass all 5 days)
Ranch dressing: $0.05 (One bottle was $0.79. I used only a fraction of it and may not use it again)

TOTAL SO FAR: $2.17

NOTE: Challenge is $1.50/day for 5 days.  Because I’ll be using the carrots/celery over the course of 5 days, it’s just easier to calculate the cost now for the entire bags instead of trying to figure out the cost of a single stalk of celery or a single carrot and how much was used in each dish.  Total amount of money that can be used over these 5 days is $7.50.  Money remaining: $5.33.

DINNER

Fried Rice
BBQ Chicken Sandwich
Green Beans
Fried Bananas

Basic Ingredients: Chicken, Carrots, Celery, Garlic and spices.
Basic Ingredients: Chicken, Carrots, Celery, Garlic and spices.

One thing that I always make when I buy chicken is stock.  I boil the chicken with carrots, celery and various spices.  After it’s done, I not only have chicken stock to use in various soups and recipes, but I also have the chicken, carrots & celery to use in other dishes.

Using these ingredients as the base, so far I’ve created chicken fried rice and congee (rice porridge).

When making chicken stock, you can use whole chicken, chicken quarters, or any chicken part you want.  You can also use any spice you’d like.  I generally use Asian spices, especially star anise, to flavor the stock and the chicken, because I like to make a lot of Asian dishes with the chicken and stock.  I recommend not just throwing in a variety of ingredients.  Try to stick to a ‘spice theme.’  For this batch, I used ground cilantro, garlic, ginger, ground ginger, bay leaves, and kaffir lime leaves.  It allows for a bit of an Asian flare, but not too powerful like it would be if I added star anise to the mix.  Star anise will give you the equivalent of the Pho soup flavor.

Keep in mind that there are a variety of ways to make chicken stock.  This is my way, which I find to be the easiest, hassle free way to make stock.

CHICKEN STOCK

Ingredients

chicken
water
2 sliced carrots
2 sliced celery stalks
spices
salt
pepper

NOTE: To make this process easier, if you have a stock pot with a deep steamer insert [like the one featured from Cuisinart here], use it so that it will make it easier to keep the stock and the ingredients separate.  If you do not use a deep steamer like the one featured in the link, you’ll have to manually separate the ingredients from the stock and then feed the stock through a cheese cloth as seen in these examples.

Directions

Fill a large stock pot with water, place over medium high heat.  Place steamer in the stock pot.

In the steamer, place the chicken, carrots, and celery in it, along with the spices, salt and pepper.  Boil for a little over an hour (i.e. until the chicken is fully cooked).

When the chicken is done, remove the steamer from the pot and put the chicken/vegetables into a large bowl to cool.

All that should be left in the pot is the stock.  Wait for it to cool down to a warm (manageable) temperature before transferring the stock to jars or bottles.

After the chicken/vegetables have cooled, separate the chicken from the vegetables/etc. and shred the meat, put the meat aside into a resealable container.  Use the vegetables immediately after for your next dish.

NOTE: If you are using glass to transfer the stock into, here are some points to remember.  1. When the stock is between warm to hot, transfer it to the glass container.  Make sure to use a towel to hold the glass while you fill up the container.  2.  Quickly put the lid on it and set the jar aside to let the stock cool down.  3.  When you hear a pop, that means that the jar has sealed.  4.  Keep the jar out until it is lukewarm (room temperature) to the touch before putting it into the refrigerator or freezer.  This usually takes a few hours.

Glass is very temperamental to hot/cold.  You do not want to put hot glass into a cold environment or vice versa.  The glass will break.

THE MEALS

Fried rice
Fried rice

Since the meat/stock is being used to create other dishes, I’m going to list the meals as they go, but include the cost to make the base here and add the supplemental costs as we go along.

COST BREAKDOWN:

2 chicken quarters (4 lbs. at $2.16 (it was on sale), each quarter at $0.54/each) = $1.08
Celery/Carrots added to price from lunch.

TOTAL SO FAR TODAY (+Lunch): $3.25

Keep in mind that this is $1.50/day challenge.  The total cost here is going to be combined for the 5 days of the $7.50 total, because each of these recipes are being used for multiple meals.

What I ended up having for dinner was 1/2 serving of fried rice, bbq chicken on a biscuit, and green beans.  For dessert, I had some fried bananas that were given to me for FREE from a Thai restaurant I go to all of the time.

Additional costs:

Rice ($1.49/3 lbs.  1/2 lb. of rice used) = $0.25
1 egg ($1.29/12 eggs.  1 egg used) = $0.11
1 bag of frozen green beans = $1.00
1 biscuit ($1.09/10 biscuits) = $0.11

OVERALL TOTAL TODAY (All meals): $4.72

I made fried rice from the chicken/vegetables mixture.  It netted 2.5 servings.

Congee (rice porridge)
Congee (rice porridge)

I also made congee (rice porridge) from the chicken/vegetables/stock.  This netted 4-5 servings.  [The garnish is spring onions that I grow at home.]

I will be using the green beans over the course of the next few days, so I thought I would add the total cost to today’s total for the entire bag (like the carrots/celery).  Between the fried rice and the congee, I was able to generate 6-7 more meals for the next few days.

There is still rice, chicken, carrots, celery and green beans leftover to create additional meals over the next few days.  There are also 3 more bowls of Lentil Soup to devour.  As we go through each day, I’ll only add any additional costs beyond what was already accounted for today.

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